Valentine's Day is just two days away and I have already heard of a few guys stressing over what to do for their partners. One of them is exceptionally affected by this because his girlfriend demands that she be made happy. Hmmm... He called me this afternoon about it and I got his permission to blog this.
This poor chap was asked by his partner to think of a unique place for their candlelight dinner, a gift of an item that she has been thinking of lately; that the whole experience cannot be worse than that of her friends.
It is sad that a day commercialised by the world now becomes a stress factor for some just so that their partners can be happy. Why just 14 February? Does that mean that if a partner does not make the other happy on this 'special' day, then the relationship is over? If that is the mentality one has, then I think it is better off that the relationship ends there because it will not last long.
Why must one demand to be made happy? Why must one expect a certain standard from another in an act of love? If this is the ideology of a relationship, then I must say the definition of love is totally wrong.
Love never expects; it should accept. If not, everything a partner does in a relationship becomes an obligation. There is no more joy in giving love because now there is an expectation tagged to it. One's love for another is not gauged by how much one gives or does for the other; the true measure I guess is how one accepts however little he or she receives from the other and is still happy and contented with it.
I hope whoever reads this and is in a relationship may want to reflect on what is fundamental in a relationship. Do not fall into the beliefs of the world that one has to do something special on Valentine's Day and that it has to be really really SPECIAL!!!
Is it not that the time spent with one another SPECIAL enough? Is it not that a present received is better than not having one at all? Is it not that being able to share one's life with another a blessing already? I can go on with the list but I shall leave it as that.
Spare a thought and be sensitive this Valentine's Day. Having the honour to give and receive love is already SPECIAL enough.
I thought I have to share this because of what I have heard and observed. I am not an expert on this topic but being in one relationship before and learning from those who have been in love for many years have taught me enough to understand it.
Anyway, I have to get back to getting some work done. I had planned to do so after dinner but some friends from the MacRitchie Running Fellowship (MRF) called me to join them in a birthday celebration for one of our siblings-in-Christ. I decided to make an exception because I cannot let my busyness take away this opportunity to bless a sibling-in-Christ. :)
Back to work! Played enough! :)
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
This poor chap was asked by his partner to think of a unique place for their candlelight dinner, a gift of an item that she has been thinking of lately; that the whole experience cannot be worse than that of her friends.
It is sad that a day commercialised by the world now becomes a stress factor for some just so that their partners can be happy. Why just 14 February? Does that mean that if a partner does not make the other happy on this 'special' day, then the relationship is over? If that is the mentality one has, then I think it is better off that the relationship ends there because it will not last long.
Why must one demand to be made happy? Why must one expect a certain standard from another in an act of love? If this is the ideology of a relationship, then I must say the definition of love is totally wrong.
Love never expects; it should accept. If not, everything a partner does in a relationship becomes an obligation. There is no more joy in giving love because now there is an expectation tagged to it. One's love for another is not gauged by how much one gives or does for the other; the true measure I guess is how one accepts however little he or she receives from the other and is still happy and contented with it.
I hope whoever reads this and is in a relationship may want to reflect on what is fundamental in a relationship. Do not fall into the beliefs of the world that one has to do something special on Valentine's Day and that it has to be really really SPECIAL!!!
Is it not that the time spent with one another SPECIAL enough? Is it not that a present received is better than not having one at all? Is it not that being able to share one's life with another a blessing already? I can go on with the list but I shall leave it as that.
Spare a thought and be sensitive this Valentine's Day. Having the honour to give and receive love is already SPECIAL enough.
I thought I have to share this because of what I have heard and observed. I am not an expert on this topic but being in one relationship before and learning from those who have been in love for many years have taught me enough to understand it.
Anyway, I have to get back to getting some work done. I had planned to do so after dinner but some friends from the MacRitchie Running Fellowship (MRF) called me to join them in a birthday celebration for one of our siblings-in-Christ. I decided to make an exception because I cannot let my busyness take away this opportunity to bless a sibling-in-Christ. :)
Back to work! Played enough! :)
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
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